How To Minimize Post-Divorce Conflicts With Your Former Spouse
The difficulties of divorce do not end the minute the final decree is finalized. You may find yourselves in constant conflicts with your former spouse if you don't take active steps to avoid them. Here are some of the precautions for minimizing such disagreements:
Put Everything in Writing
Put everything in writing to avoid disputes. It's much easier for your former spouse to dispute a word-of-mouth agreement than for them to dispute a written agreement they signed. Therefore, it's advisable to include even the things your state doesn't require to be included so that you can minimize future disagreements. After all, if the agreement is approved by the court, anybody that goes against it may be subject to legal repercussions. That alone may deter your former partner from raising conflicts with you.
Leave the Past in The Past
Say everything you wish to say to your partner during the divorce so that you don't dwell on the past after the divorce is finalized. Unless you have new information that may lead to a change in your divorce agreement, constantly blaming your partner or picking up arguments won't help. For example, if your partner was stingy with money during your divorce, don't keep reminding them about it as long as they are meeting the financial obligations (such as alimony) as per the agreement.
Try Sticking To the Divorce Agreement
It's possible that you will run into difficulties with some of the elements of your divorce agreement. For example, the child custody arrangement may prove incompatible with your business travels, or you may realize the designated child support isn't adequate for your kid's needs.
It's vital to resist the temptation to change the agreement each time a problem creeps up. Analyze each problem and decide whether you can adapt to it or you really need to change it. For example, if it's possible (without serious repercussions) rearrange your business trips to accommodate your custody arrangements, do it instead of seeking a modification.
Communicate With Your Former Partner
Lastly, you will save yourself from considerable heartache if you can communicate your fears, difficulties, and expectations to your former partner in time. For example, if you are going to be later in delivering the kids home after a family outing, inform the other parent in time. Don't assume that they should just know, and accept, that such issues are part of life after divorce.
Hopefully, you will not have serious disagreements with your spouse after divorce. If such disagreements do arise, however, and you are unable to resolve them, seeking the services of a family attorney may be the best move for both of you.
For a family law attorney, contact a law firm such as Leonard & Kershaw.